Is He Still In Love With His Ex Wife?

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By Affinity2010

Is He Still In Love With His Ex Wife?

Your relationship has seen better days from the first day you married your husband until now. He seems to be distant and not communicating with you as much as he did in the beginning. His ex wife has been a damsel in distress, needing him for every little thing that is happening in her life, if she has a busted pipe under her kitchen sink, your husband runs over to her place in the middle of the night to fix it and he can't even help you bring the groceries in the house.

You want to expand you family and have children of your own. However, when you try and discuss it with him, he tells you that he has children already with his ex and he doesn't want anymore children. There were nights when you spent evenings alone while he was on the telephone with his ex for hours, and you could'nt help but cry yourself to sleep at night. Clues are important to listen to when you want to know if someone is cheating on you. Although, your husband may have children with his ex, his number one priority should be with you, not the ex wife. There is a reason she is an ex.

Another clue you should have noticed is when you tried to share a romantic evening with him and he makes an excuse to get out of it, making love is not a part of the equation anymore in your marriage and you're still giving this man the benefit of the doubt. Living in denial is not going to be a solution to your problem with your husband smiling everytime his kids visit and tells him that their mother told them to say hello to their dad for her.. Obviously that love bug that bit him when he first met his ex for the first time has now become an infestation, and it will take more than pest control to get rid of this homewrecking bug.

When his ex wife was short on cash he did not have a problem going into the joint acount he shares with you to get cash for her, Come on, there has to be a line you should draw or a foot you should put down so hard that it goes through the floor. There is no logical explanation you can get from a man who is still running behind his ex wife or grilfriend, so sitting around scratching your head waiting for is buying him more free time to run behind her.

Is he worth you waiting up late at night for him to come home? or for him scolding you like a child whenever you say something bad about his ex and somethng in defense of your relationship? Face the facts. he's in love with his ex; don't fool yourself any longer. You can come right out and ask him, but I bet he will deny it because he may not want his marriage to end with you. He likes the thought of having his cake and eating it too.

If the two of you want the marriage to workout, you both have to put some effort in it to see that it happens. Seeking a relationship therapist might be ideal for your marriage, but if your husband decides that he doesn't want to seek any help and he see's nothing wrong with remaining friends with his ex, you should let him know how you feel when he puts her first before you.

Anyone who decides to move on with their lives and start new relationships should not start relatioships with someone new until the ex is completely out of their system. Remaining in contact with an ex because you share children with them is understandable. Needless to say, feelings of unresolved love or lust for an ex will become a problem for your new relationship whether you believe it or not.

If you know you can't control your feelings for an ex, but you want your new relationship to workout; make up in your mind what is more valuable to you, your new relationship or an old relationship that had problems that created the break up in the first place. If you're know longer in love with the new person, it's best to be honest and let them know so that they can have a chance to move on and find someone else who truly will love them.

Is he still in love with his ex wife? If you have to ask he must have shown you some of those clues, so get out while you can. Run baby, run.

Comments

soneblom profile image

soneblom 19 months ago

Thats a sad situation! Prayer helps.

W. K. Hayes profile image

W. K. Hayes 16 months ago

Awesome advice...trying to maintain one relationship while having another, even if it is only in the heart, could very cost the person their past and their future.

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Affinity2010 Hub Author 16 months ago

Thank You, W.K Hayes. No one should ever consider trying to juggle two relationships or let pining over an ex destroy what they have with a new relationship.

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Shyla's Nana 16 months ago

Why would someone want to start a relationship with someone if they still love their ex? That isn't fair and very selfish to the new person in their life. It leaves the new person with a lot of self-doubt when there should not be any. Do not start another relationship until you are completely over your ex. Is it the memories you shared with your ex? Well, dig a little deeper and you will find a memory or three that will remind you why you aren't with that person now. By still having feelings for an ex and being at their beck and call, you are cheating yourself and the new person you are with out of something that could be beautiful. So, one should ask themselves, why would you want to walk down an already well-beaten path when you could take a road less traveled? Thank you for the article.

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Affinity2010 Hub Author 16 months ago

Shyla Nana, Thank you for agreeing with me over this hub. It sickens me when someone chooses to destroy something they've developed with someone new by putting them on the back burner, spending time or being there to emotionally benefit an ex. In most cases it will turn back into a romantic relationship because the two could possibly still have feelings for one another.

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jolinabalcruz 7 weeks ago

an EX is an EX, why do they have to come back?

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Affinity2010 Hub Author 6 weeks ago

Exactly!!!

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